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Monique posted this 23 May 2017

Howzit, Although I'm new to this forum, I am not new to the idea of immigrating to New Zealand. Unfortunately life happened and the dreams of immigrating to New Zealand came to an abrupt halt in 2014. It has been a while since I looked into immigrating but now that things have settled and my kids (12 ;& 8) are older, I'm thinking there is no better time than the present...

In my mind I have decided to grab the adventure and make the best of it. Unfortunately, my friends and soon my family will start to pull at my heart strings and I'm afraid I might pull out of living my dream because of the doubt they put into my mind. I'm not naive to think that moving across the world alone with two children would be easy, but I have to believe that making this move is in the best interests of my kids and that moving would give them the best opportunities. So I thought I would join a support group where I could meet other people who are on the same journey and who instead of trying to discourage my dream would encourage me to keep going.

So, where am I in the process? The beginning Thankfully, I am fortunate to already have all unabridged birth certificates and all our passports are valid. I will only be in the financial position to start job searching and then visa process in about 18 months. In the meantime I intend doing a lot of researching, networking and saving.

Thats me...thanks

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Shaun posted this 23 May 2017

Hey Monique,

Welcome and thanks for your post!

I try my best to not sugar coat things to much and try tell of my experiences good and bad. But one thing that is for sure is that its the best thing we could have done for our family. We have two kids (7 and 11). Moving to NZ came at a great expense to us, financially and emotionally. But it was worth it in so many ways and I am honest when I say we are living a good life with good prospects for my family's future.

Your kids will also have their ups and downs and as a single parent you are going to have your work cut out for you trying to balance being supportive and giving them space to develop and grow into their new surroundings, it seems as though the younger they are the better and quicker they settle in. The schools are also well equipped to deal with migrant students and you receive great help from them.

I know how friends and family can be when they don't quite support your move, but you can't hold your own life and dreams back because of that.

Good luck Monique and hopefully you can find that support group you need here on this forum!

Please keep us posted on your progress!


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Monique posted this 24 May 2017

Hi Shaun

Thanks for your response.

My son is ready to take the next flight out to New Zealand and has even gone as far as seeking out a flight school in NZ. So irrespective of what my plans are, he plans to immigrate to NZ after school...oh to be young my son's enthusiasm is so incredible to watch and because he is older, he will be informed of all decisions every step of way. He has even come to me with UTUBE videos about settling in NZ.

Being a single parent, my work is already cut out for me, everyday... I am confident that I would be able to give my kids the support they need.

I prefer to not have things sugar coated as this would give me a false sense of what to expect and that could only be a recipe for disaster.

Thanks again and I will keep you posted of my journey...

hugo_nz posted this 24 May 2017

Welcome Monique,

It will certainly be a fun, wild, emotional ride, but in the end you are moving towards a better life for your and your kids. As a single parent you are likely to have less worries here since it's soo much safer than SA.

Looking forward to reading about your journey!

Going on two years and still enjoying the ride.

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Monique posted this 25 May 2017

Hi Hugo..


foxylady posted this 01 June 2017

Hey Monique

Welcome to the forum!

It is quite a roller-coaster of a ride. Emotionally and yes financially.

The best piece of advice anyone will give you is to do lots of research, do some more research and then again some more.  You need to know what you will be getting yourself into, whilst getting yourself over to NZ as well as living here and life in NZ.

Good luck with the researching, networking and saving.

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